You know what sucks? Waiting..that’s what sucks. I’m FINALLY enrolled in school, I am ready to rock and roll, and now…..I wait for school to start. I have an “introduction to online learning” class to take starting next week, but that doesn’t count. I want to start my “real” classes, but they don’t start until January 4th! For my first semester I am taking Math for Business (Mth101) LOL, and also Introduction to Database Applications (Access), and Electronic Spreadsheets (Excel). Not the most exciting forst round line up, but I have to start somewhere right? I’m still not too sure of where I want to go with my education, I am stuck thinking primarily about money, BUT do I really want to focus my education on a high paying career, or something that pays less, but I enjoy more? Hell who knows, I may find I can do both right? I have heard from several people that working with Dbases is fun and interesting, so maybe I will end up being a DBA. Ok, enough school chat.
I swung by my old buddies blog today and saw a few things that I feel I must mention.
First off, I owe him congratulations on the announcement of his wife’s pregnancy! That is awesome news; there is nothing greater than kids.
I left my friendship with him when I criticized his wifes attitude and we ended up in a huge argument, I have thought long and hard about that situation and have a few things to say about it. First, I know my method for expressing my feelings was probably a little too blunt, but that is how I am sometimes, I tend not to sugar coat things. I saw what I perceived to be something I should mention, and I put it out there. I also have a tendency to keep pushing things, even when I know I am pushing to hard or to far, I just keep on pushing. It’s ironic that I would do that to Steve…because he is kinda the same way, when he gets it in his head that he is right about something…there is not much of a chance of changing his mind. That’s why we were good at debating things together, because we’d each have an opposing view, both would be full of intelligent argument, and they could probably go on for days. LOL.
The other thing I saw on his blog was his mention of losing me as a snowboarding companion, and you know what Steve? I feel the same way. It sucks losing a friend, I know that it was my actions that caused this rift, so it is me who will offer the proverbial olive branch. I am openly apologizing for the criticism of your wife (although I couldn’t expect her to forgive me) and I am openly apologizing to Kate as well. I am man enough to stand up and apologize. I know that a blog post doesn’t constitute a “real apology” so I am asking you this. Would you accept an apology in person? If so, call me. And I’ll do it.
People all do stupid things, and not just when they are kids. So with that said, I’ll end this post with a bit of wisdom.
When we judge something we only prove that we have an incomplete view of it.
Tic Toc Tic Toc………….
Posted by Jamie A MacDonald at Friday, November 17, 2006
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Thank you, Jamie. I understand why you felt like it needed to be brought to my attention and I agree, it was the pushiness and lack of trust in my judgment that pushed me away. It made what would have been something that a good friend would do into something that was very hurtful and negative.
You need to trust that I would never put my kids into a situation where they would be negatively impacted. Nobody loves and cares for them more than I do and it is apparent that you know very little about Kate as a person. Because you know so little about her, it is understandable that you could get a wrong impression of someone. It's just a matter of chance that you get someone in a particular mood at certain times. We're not always at our best and it's not fair to judge someone on only a couple of brief encounters.
When I tell you that she loves the kids and the kids love her and have a lot of fun with her, you have to trust that what I say is true.
For example, she planned and executed an awesome (and very elaborate) Halloween birthday party for Emily all by herself. Is that something that a person that you where trying to tell me that she was would do? Kate has brought a tremendous amount of love, joy, and a feeling of a home to our family and I love her dearly for that.
If I think enough of a woman to make her my wife and stepmother to my children, then it is the duty of all of my friends and family to respect her as such just as I respect all of your wives if I like them or not.
I don't care if you don't like her. I don't care if you despise her. I only mandate that if someone is to associate with me, they will respect her.
I believe that you have thought about it and realize that it was pride and competition of ideas that caused you to cross the line and I understand. I miss you as a friend and I strongly believe that you are a good man and that we can eventually put this hurt behind us and life will go on.
For what it's worth, before all of this happened, Kate told me a few times how she thought that you where an awesome guy and she had high hopes that you two would get along. She was crushed to be attacked like this by someone that she admired.
Congrats on the school. I'm enrolled at JCC and I'm taking some more classes again, too.
I don't know who told you that working with databases is fun but I'd take that with a grain of salt. It's BORING and redundant. It's like the shop job of the computer industry.
While it's important to understand databases and how to write code against them, I'd NEVER want to make it my career. It's not a very gratifying field.
I think that you'd have a lot more fun with networking and server technologies. There's always something new and exciting coming down the pipe and it will always be in high demand as long as you keep your skills sharp.
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